Are we only as healthy as the love interest we attract?

They say that you are only as healthy as the love interest you attract into your life. Looking back at my relationships- and where I was emotionally during each of them- I can see how this can be true. It seems that the more issues I had , the more of a mess “he” was.

My life has been about working on my “isms” and each  boyfriend has tended to be healthier than the last. I’ve reached a point where I feel really strong in who I am, and my mantra these last few years has been “to open my heart completely that I might be more compassionate .”

Well- my sweet poet and I are coming up to our 1 year mark, and he amazes me more and more every day. Last week he called to tell me about a little bird. Seems that the past few mornings as Michael tended the yard, this Robin Red Breast got closer and closer to him . Was it just curious? Trying to make a friend?

Yesterday  morning when I was at Michael’s, he came into the house to tell me that he had found the robin at their meeting spot- but the bird was laying on the ground not moving. As he gently reached down to it; Michael felt warmth, but no life in his little friend.

I followed Michael outside to the bench where he had placed the bird’s body to take pictures to remember him by. Then he went to his garden, shoveled out dirt to make a grave between the white lily plants and gently lay the dead bird in it. Then my sweet man said a few words of what the bird meant to him and wished his spirit well. After shoveling the dirt back to bury it, Michael got a flat rock as a tombstone, placed  some blue gems around it and an azalea bloom to make the grave complete.

As I watched Michael’s loving ritual, while he took time to honor the life of his little friend,  I suddenly realized that this  man that I have in my life is open-hearted and compassionate!

Is it really true that we are as healthy as the love partner we attract?

If so, I have come a very long way.

I do know that I can feel my heart opening more and more each day…..

About lynadawn

Faux finisher certified w/ City and Guilds of London Dec Art and Restoration. Author, teacher, consultant, co-host Artistically Speaking Radio Show. Also creative brainstormer, love to laugh, latte anyone?
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4 Responses to Are we only as healthy as the love interest we attract?

  1. Lisa Moon says:

    Amen, Lyna! I’ve seen this so many times. The healthier the person, the healthier their partner (and the relationship) tends to be. My hubby Peter (we’ve been married a year and a half) says you can tell what someone is like by what their friends are like. Similar to what you’re saying. I’m a believer! :)


  2. Regina says:

    This is a beautiful story. I also do believe we are as healthy as our partners, and I can see this means I have a lot of work to do on myself. Besides that, your poet’s compassion for the bird is touching and your willingness to admit it has taken time for you to progress to a healthy relationship is touching as well. (I found you via the DWYL class).

    • lynadawn says:

      Hi Regina
      Thank you so much for taking time to read some of my musings.
      My life has been about learning that I do matter and has come to the point where I try to be minful everyday to breathe in every moment and find joy everywhere… if I an only figure out what I want to be when I grow up! :)

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